The One “Must Have” to Overcoming Fear

“I’m WISH I had the guts to quit my job and start that business idea I’ve always had, but what if….”

“Even though I love him/her, I’m terrified of commitment and getting hurt. I just can’t risk giving this relationship a chance. But I know I’m going to lose him/her!”

“I so badly want to change XYZ, I just CAN’T!”

Any time there is something in your life that you want to change, until the stress/discomfort/dis-ease/cost of not changing becomes greater change, finding the motivation to change is exponentially more difficult. When our motivation is greater than our fear, the drive to change comes from a deeper place within us that we can pull from when our efforts become taxing.

Growth isn’t easy, so our brains are not inclined to prompt us towards doing the work. Excuses, avoidance, maladaptive coping skills, staying with what’s familiar…sometimes ANYTHING sounds like a better idea..and we are often masters at each of those, which doesn’t help.

Your spouse asks you to stop drinking. You promise you will, but don’t. She says she’s leaving you. Suddenly, quitting drinking changes from a “should” to a “must.”

You keep telling yourself you’re going to lose weight but don’t take any steps towards achieving that. Your doctor says you are at risk of becoming diabetic. Suddenly, the “costs” are different.

So the next time there’s some change you want to take on, seek a deeper motivation. Identify an opportunity cost of not changing that matters to you significantly enough to make the change feel mandatory, not optional. Visualize the necessity, feel the urgency, create the pressing need inside of you, and watch the process unfold differently.

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